Political promises are much like marriage vows. They are made at the beginning of the relationship between candidate and voter, but are quickly forgotten…

-Dick Gregory


Just imagine the wigged out Jim Jones—leader of the famed Peoples Temple cult—giving his followers down in Jonestown arsenic instead of cyanide back in 1979.  Do you think it would have altered the result if he had changed the poison in the Kool-Aid he had his nine-hundred loyal parishioners sipping on?  I don’t think so—every last one of his decieved disciples still would have died on the spot had they drank another poison before crawling too far away from the scene in what remains the largest mass-suicide in the history of mankind on record. 

My all-time favorite reason for divorcing instead of exhausting every last drop possible in reconciling or weathering the storms marriages may have to endure is the worn out—It’s better for everyone if we divorce.  Really?  Saying that divorce is good over the alternatives is akin to stating that arsenic is better to drink than cyanide.  You are only fooling yourself.  I mean seriously, arguing that a double-homicide beats a triple-homicide is pointless.  They are both atrocities. 

Wouldn’t it be best if God restored your marriage rather than your deciding to go out in your quest to find someone who deserves you more and likewise—and torturing them as well?  You may have divorced with good reason—but how many of us divorce with lame reasons?  And please—it’s better for the kids is just a crafty disguise more times than not for needing to sound like we are so giving and responsible.  The truth is—many of us don’t give a rip about anyone other than ourselves.  And if we are going to state it’s better for the kids, maybe we ought to qualify our statement with adding who says it’s better?  Did we bother asking God his opinion? It may sound spiritual to say it’s better for the kids—but who are you fooling?  I haven’t read much biblical discourse providing such an argument.  My question is—If divorce is so much better for the kids why does the overwhelming body of evidence exclaim time and time again just the opposite?   

 Don’t you realize that this is not the way to live? Unjust people who don’t care about God will not be joining in his kingdom. Those who use and abuse each other, use and abuse sex, use and abuse the earth and everything in it, don’t qualify as citizens in God’s kingdom. A number of you know from experience what I’m talking about, for not so long ago you were on that list. Since then, you’ve been cleaned up and given a fresh start by Jesus, our Master, our Messiah, and by our God present in us, the Spirit.

Just because something is technically legal doesn’t mean that it’s spiritually appropriate. If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with, I’d be a slave to my whims.   (1 Corinthians 6:9-12, The Message Bible) 

Divorce should be a last resort after every attempt to change oneself has failed—has anyone ever filed for the poison we call  divorce and pointed the finger at themselves?  Can’t say too many of the folks I know getting divorces these days acknowledge their own part in the undoing of their marriage—because if they did, they might have to face the music about the fact that they haven’t given their marriage as much as they have dedicated to thier their own selfish agendas.