I have known many happy marriages, but never a compatible one.  The whole aim of marriage is to fight through and survive the instant when incompatibility becomes unquestionable.

G.K. Chesterton


If we spent half the effort on praying and waiting that we exert trying to convince everyone (including ourselves) that divorce is the solution for our marriage in crisis—maybe we’d see a marriage we had no hope for become a beacon of hope for others.  Our idea of praying for a miracle can go like this: God, please change my wife, and if you don’t, I’ll take that as a sign that I need to ditch her.  It’s really the equivalent of giving God lip service.  Have you ever considered that the reason your marriage might not be perfect or that it might be terrible has something to do with you? 

Some of us make the mistake of praying for a miracle and then expecting our spouse to perform it.  Bear in mind, God may not give you the miracle you ask for on your terms—God just may perform the miracle you ask for but it might take a month when you want it to take a day, or it may take a year when all you are willing to give God is a month. 

In order for a marriage to get anywhere it’s going to take some prayer and patience. 

We want God to play to our ego—we want to look good when God pulls off the thing he is planning on doing.  There is a disconnect between our way of thinking and God’s way of thinking much of the time however—God never plays to our egos.  Miracles often require our eating some crow and enduring hardship that isn’t so easy stomach.  God hasn’t made it a habit of elevating a man or a woman when he has acted in the past, and I get the impression he’s not about to start. 

 If God doesn’t build the house, the builders only build shacks.  If God doesn’t guard the city, the night watchman might as well nap.  It’s useless to rise early and go to bed late, and work your worried fingers to the bone.  Don’t you know he enjoys giving rest to those he loves?    (Psalm 127:1-2, The Message Bible)

A beautiful marriage is the glory of God.

And a word to the wise: God makes the marriage—it’s never the accomplishment of man.