When a Christian shuns fellowship with other Christians, the devil smiles. When he stops studying the Bible, the devil laughs. When he stops praying, the devil shouts for joy.
-Corrie ten Boom

My favorite movie (Tombstone) winds up with Wyatt Erp visiting his friend Doc Holliday on his deathbed at a sanatorium—he is dying from tuberculosis.  Wyatt, not having enough friends to need more than one hand less four fingers to count them on, comes to visit Doc every day and try his luck in a few hands of poker—despite Doc’s displeasure with the visits.  The afternoon Doc is going to die, Wyatt walks up to his bedside—in a style only Wyatt could—and asks, How are you feeling today Doc?  To which Doc candidly replies, I’m dying, how are you?  

And that’s what it takes for some of us to level with one another when we should have much sooner.

Why are we so phony with one another?  We are asked on a day that we feel like crawling in a hole, How you doing today?  And what’s our answer?  Great, never been better.  Even Joel Osteen has a bad hair day.  How many couples spend a lifetime together and never take the time to stop and really learn about one another?  I’ve had bosses who after months of working for them say to me—I didn’t know you had any kids?   And I want to ask them—Do you think I would work this second-rate job if I didn’t?  

 Don’t lie to one another. You’re done with that old life. It’s like a filthy set of ill-fitting clothes you’ve stripped off and put in the fire. Now you’re dressed in a new wardrobe. Every item of your new way of life is custom-made by the Creator, with his label on it. All the old fashions are now obsolete. Words like Jewish and non-Jewish, religious and irreligious, insider and outsider, uncivilized and uncouth, slave and free, mean nothing. From now on everyone is defined by Christ, everyone is included in Christ.

…Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness.   (Colossians 3:9-11, 15, The Message Bible) 

It’s okay to say—I’m hurting, would you pray for me?   Which reminds me, it’s even better to say—I can see your dying, what can I do for you?